Yesterday, Larry and I had a huge discussion and was about, FRIENDSHIP. It is a subject that that has hit close to home the past 18 months. How do you judge a friend? What do you expect from a friend? Do you hold a friend to the same expectations as the other people who come easily in and out of our lives, are held to?
What does your friendship look like if you BOTH are going through unthinkable bumps in the road? Do you reach out to check on your friends even though you are depressed, ill or overwhelmed with life?
OK. I am crying.
I personally believe that there is always a giver and a taker in every relationship. When the giver (or the communicator) is struggling….. what happens to the relationship? If the friendship dissolves, was it truly a friendship?
I found this list online. I love it……
A good friend walks the talk and shows that they care by their actions – big and small.
A good friend:
Listen to them. Try to understand a situation from your friend’s point of view. …
Get the facts. …
Ask them what they need. …
Keep in touch. …
Tell them how you feel. …
Be willing to make a tough call.
I wrote a real letter to a lost friend a few months ago. I apologized in case I had done anything wrong and tried to make sure that she was ok. She texted me with excuses. I guess she was not a friend after all.
My daughter Lauren called me while I was writing this Friendship post….her advice was…YOU only have control over YOU. You do not have to allow anyone to ignore or insult you. OR use you, for that matter. Do not let anyone walk all over you or disrespect you. (Thank you Lars, for your thoughts)
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Be a good friend today, Let me know how you are doing!
Love you.
Robin
Robin: I have a real friendship that I have had since first grade. We have taken different paths in our life, but we always come together like time didn’t matter. Now I live very close to her (at least in the same state). She is the sister that I got to chose for myself, although I really believe that God had his hand in this more than I ever did.
She shares her children & grandchildren with me and I am Aunt B. She was recently diagnosed with leukemia and sometimes I am selfish when I think of all the memories we shared that no one else knows about and if she leaves me I will be the only one with those memories. That makes me so very sad. But she is doing well with medication for now and I enjoy every moment we spend together. I love her so much.
I have many other friends, but no one shares my life like she does. That is friendship to me.