Photo: Garden sculpture at the Phipps Conservatory. Pittsburgh, PA

In Life,

you can learn a lot


simply watching.


It is early here. 5:03 am to be exact.

Larry just finished his shower and I know that because

He yelled: Good Morning, I love you!

Sometimes, a person just saying: I love you

can change  someones mood.

Have a great day.

I love you.


Shopping With Matilda

Last summer while shopping with Matilda

she fell in love with this fabric at Hobby Lobby.

A  dress pattern was shown with it,

but the funny thing is, the pattern was discontinued.

Matilda wanted the fabric anyway.

Photo: Paris fabric for a little girls dress

For one year, with no luck, I searched for a pattern

much like the discontinued one


still appropriate for the fabric and a 7 year old girl.

Till last week! At Half Price Books,

in the sewing section I found this brand new pattern

in Matilda’s size  and it was $1.99.

Photo: Pattern for Paris fabric. I will make the dress on the left, the one with two ruffles.

I was talking to Lauren {Matilda’s Mom} and we laughed….

Maybe Matilda will not like the fabric anymore!

It has been one year since she picked it out!

Fingers crossed that she will still like it.

Photo: Pattern and Fabric

I will buy {or make} a knitted pink shrug for her to wear with it.


It is Thursday.

I walked my laps

and saw a hot air balloon while I was at the lake.

My dresses are at the dry cleaners,

dinner is planned.

Let the day begin.

Love you.


Another Tuesday At The Tolberts


I heard that the sweet dog next door

had passed away.

His owner, his Mom, is dealing with health issues


 I know she is missing him like crazy right now.

If you would, please remember Debbie in your prayers?


I walked my laps yesterday.

{all 4 miles}

The first time in 2 weeks.


It felt wonderful, but I tired out  fast.

{I hate being tired}

Last evening Larry and I had our anniversary dinner.

Photo: 41st anniversary feast

The purpose of this dinner is to enjoy dinner, just the two of us

toast the past year with Champagne,


Exchange THE card.

Photo: Cake and card

We use the same card every year…

when we run out of space,

I tie a new card to the inside of the first cards.

Larry hands the card to me and I read his message to me out loud.

And cry.

Then he reads my message to him.

Next  year it will be year 42.

Love you.


It Was Not A Pilgrimage At All

Last weekend, Larry and I  made arrangements

to go on  a pilgrimage of sorts.

We would fly to Pittsburgh to  take flowers

to my Grandparents {my Mothers parents} graves.

Then we would meet my cousin for dinner


the next day go visit my Mothers first cousin, Ruth.

That was the plan.


Friday morning.

At the cemetery, we found the area where

my grandparents were buried

but not the headstones.

The cemetery was in a disarray.

So many headstones were buried under inches of dirt.

We were there for hours but no luck finding them.

Photo: Cemetery in Pittsburgh

All the headstones are flat.

It was beautiful, but did not feel like a cemetery at all.


Friday night.

We met my cousin Kathy for dinner.

We barely knew each other as children

but have reconnected the past few years

{she is an amazing person}

Photo: Storms in Pittsburgh

I do not know how it happened,

but I did not take any pics at dinner.

We talked, caught up on “life” , enjoyed dinner

and then we were invited back to Kathy’s house

for dessert.

Photo: It looks like the camera setting was on fish eye, but I love this shot.

At dessert we met Violeta, Todd, Maya, Majandra and Joaquin.

{Kathy’s daughter, son in law, and grandchildren}

What a wonderful family.

The Children were charming and engaging.

Violeta and Todd….well what can  I say. So sweet, fun and kind.

It was such a nice evening, not a pilgrimage at all.

It was family.

Saying goodbye that evening was difficult.


On Saturday…..

Larry and I left the hotel to visit Ruth.

Ruth is my Mother’s first cousin.

I was so excited, we left about an hour {to} early .

When we arrived, Kathy was already there with Ruth.

Beautiful, charming Ruth.

I had visited this magnificent home as a child.

Memories flooded back.

Ruth looked as I remember her.

Sweet smile and twinkling eyes.

I wish my Mother had been with us for this lovely visit.

Photo: Ruth, Kathy and me.

It was the most amazing weekend.

Larry and I are already talking about going back, to find my grandparents.

And to visit,

Ruth, Kathy, Violeta, Todd and the adorable children.

The weekend was filled with family and joy.

It was not a pilgrimage at all.

Love you.



Quarante Et Un

Quarante Et Un, Forty One Years ago today in Richmond, VA

Larry and I were married.

This is the only photo we have. Taken by my brother in law.

One thing I do have is , in my bridal bouquet.

I worked at a flower shop in Richmond when we were married


the owner made an arrangement  on my bible.

{I made the cover for the bible from left over wedding dress fabric}

It now lives in a shadow box.

We  made plans  today to celebrate our anniversary…

but they have been postponed till tomorrow because

our air conditioner is not working.

The AC man will be coming sometime today.

{you know how THAT is}

Happy Anniversary Larry!


Larry and I flew away to Pittsburgh this past weekend.

It is where my mother was born and grew up.

I will share more later…till then please know

that it was an amazing visit.

{thank you Kathy Anderson. You  helped make our trip perfect}


Happy August 20th .

One of the great love stories of the century

started on that day in 1977.

Larry. I love you.


That Fresh Faced Child

Yesterday I found these photos….

They make me smile.

I LOVE Larry so much and where has our time gone?

Photo: Wedding Photo  August 1977


Photo: Larry traveling home from Fla. 1975

I do not want to sound like a grumpy old lady, but merde.

I do not like being treated like a 60 something gray-head.

I want to shout that I feel like I am 45 years old.

Where did that fresh face child and her hunky love vanish to?

I know where.

We are right here, enjoying our moments and surrounded by love.

Don’t forget Seniors are people too.

Please don’t call us Granny or Pa if we are not your Granny or Pa.

{Larry’s pet peeve is to be called Pa by adults}

Life goes by at record speed…enjoy each moment

and do not let anyone suggest that you are old.

Ok, I got THAT off of my chest. Thank you for listening.

Love you!


Magic, Like Pistachio Ice Cream

Last evening, we drove into Dallas for dinner,

to a favorite bistro.

Link-Sallio Bistro!

Traffic was crazy, we talked about our day


how hungry we were.

Dinner was perfect, I had a salad….but my favorite was the

pistachio  ice cream.

 It was just like the pistachio ice cream that we get in Paris.

I was transported for a second.

To that Paris that I love so well.

Last year while in France,

I was to meet Larry for lunch  after shopping.

I saw him walking along the river before he saw me.

Then, when we saw each other.


Magic, like pistachio ice cream.

{I had pistachio ice cream that day after lunch}

What is the magic in your life?

What sweet memory holds a special place in your heart

and  helps you get through difficult moments?

I have Paris, pistachio ice cream


My Larry waving to me, as we meet in our favorite city.

Love you.


Till Yesterday

Last year on my  mammogram,

completing 5 years of breast cancer treatment…

they found a shadow on the  images.

I was so sad that it ended like that.

{I would not talk about it to anyone}

A cloud hung over my head for one year…till yesterday.


My mammogram yesterday was clear.

Thumbs up.

Smiles. Grins.

Love you.


Sunday Dinner and Movie

Last night we made skewers with veggies and Italian sausage.

I basted them in Marinara sauce.

Larry cooked them out on the grill.

I made cheese bread and salads.

We watched the movie, French Kiss and drank wine.

Dessert was a Chantilly cake.

Wonderful whipped goodness, with fresh fruit.

I was in heaven.

You cannot buy happiness

but you can buy cake


that is kind of the same thing.


Love you.


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